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What you need to know about parental gatekeeping

Parental gatekeeping is a necessary strategy to protect children from parents suffering from alcohol or drug above or committing violent or neglectful acts. In those scenarios, the other parents have the right to restrict contact.

Another more sinister definition of parental gatekeeping involves one parent with primary physical custody and the other enjoying a visitation schedule. One disagreement arises, which is normal in any post-divorce relationship. However, the custodial parent reacts by forbidding scheduled visitation or requests a new parenting plan to provide them with more time.

Parental alienation through badmouthing

In their post-divorce lives, mothers and fathers may not be at their best. The simplest of misunderstandings can become blown out of proportion. However, many ex-spouses outright sabotage the relationship the other enjoys with the children.

In their book, "Working With Alienated Children and Families," Amy JL Baker & S Richard Sauber detailed specific parental alienation strategies. One of the more common, yet sinister of those strategies is badmouthing.

An Interview with Justice Stephen Breyer

As the Editor-in-Chief of Litigation, the journal published by the American Bar Association's Section of Litigation, I had the honor and privilege of meeting and interviewing Justice Stephen G. Breyer. We discussed his book, The Court and the World. In his book and in his interview, Justice Breyer drove home a salient point: Judicial isolationism in an interconnected world is not the way forward. America's highest court cannot stand aloof and isolated from the legal universe beyond its country's shores.

What are the early signs of parental alienation?

Children of divorce are innocent bystanders and casualties of divorce. They are innocent bystanders, as one household becomes two. They face uncertainty, if not fear of the future. Their best interests should come first.

Acts of parental alienation present a direct threat to their emotional and psychological well-being. Far too many waste little time in manipulating children to take "their side." They force children to choose one parent. They foster unease or negative feelings towards another parent. These sinister and damaging signs must be identified and stopped.

Steps towards solutions to the problem of parental alienation

Parental alienation is tragically born from custody-related conflicts between warring parents refusing to negotiate. However, in "winner-take-all" battles, the "winner" rarely takes "all."

In spite of evidence to the contrary, the existence of parental alienation lacked much-needed confirmation by a prominent organization. However, the waning months of 2016 saw the group finally verifying what many individuals and entire countries already knew.

Can an app bridge the parental alienation gap?

Neil Jones knows firsthand about parental alienation. He has not seen his daughter for two years due to what he deems "brainwashing" by the child's mother. As a father who has been kept away from his child, he can relate with people who also struggle in their attempts to reconnect with loved ones. He understands the frustrating barriers they face on a daily basis.

Now, he's trying to create an app for that.

Denial of Parenting Time During Holidays?

A common strategy employed by the alienating parent is to limit contact between the target parent and the child. Holidays - Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Birthdays - are special times. They not only rekindle past memories of times enjoyed by the parent and the child but offer opportunities to create new memories. Alienators violate parenting plans. They take advantage of ambiguities in court orders to deny the target parent time with the child. The child acclimates to the new "status quo" and before long, the alienator insists that the target parent's time be reduced to what's now "status quo."

Parental Alienation: What Can (and Should) the Courts Do?

Parental alienation can have devastating consequences. More and more courts around the country and internationally are condemning alienating behaviors and taking action to remedy the matters. In part 2 of my 2-part article on parental alienation, I discuss what can (and should) the courts do to intervene in a situation involving parental alienation. 

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